Managing Brother Rivalry

Managing Brother Rivalry It is human nature to feel competitive and envious toward others. A moderate spirit of competition is a positive and productive attribute in school and in business. Brother rivalry is a normal part of growing up in families. The competition between the brothers when he started the second son was bo. Unfortunately, many parents are unaware of some and the situation worse.When occasionally becomes a constant struggle against the series of fights and arguments, which must be treated to avoid, with years of discord and the potential danger. Here are some tips to help you reduce the frustration polemical with brothers and sisters and help them to lea long better.Do your best offer for each of their children equal amounts of praise and attention. This is true whether they are competing for your attention or if you are participating in a school or sports activity.Encourage their children to participate in activities they really enjoy. Do not expect to participate in activities that always have something to do together, or when competing with each other.Children sometimes perceive that their parents encourage a child over the others. While some parents prefer a child to others, it is usually not a conscious choice. If your child tells you in favor of his brother, pay attention to their behavior, perhaps there is some truth in it. However, if you know you are fair or if there is good reason to treat a child differently, still. Sometimes children use? Favorite son? complaint as a way of making you feel guilty and give them what want.Sometimes a child is more cooperative or better behaved than others. What? S to compare the normal siblings, but? D in general, better not talk about it. Comparison of two children and non? Not help to improve their behavior, but it intensifies the feeling of envy and jealousy. A more constructive approach is to limit their comments to the problem of problems. Also avoid saying that a child does something better.Make his brother is a rule that family members may be involved in accidents between the brothers and sisters, if we really saw what happened. This prevents people from being manipulated.Realize that the younger children may be the aggressors. Defense.If not automatically run for his two children are fighting for a toy, take away. This discourages arguing who can play with the two children are fighting what.When, they share a chair and look at each other in a mirror. With all the silly faces that make the mirror that the disagreement is soon forgotten and laughed like children friends.If best to continue the fight after a few minutes in the chair, assign a job to do. The excess energy is directed toward others will soon be put to better use the table or pick up toys.Use active listening techniques to allow the brothers to express their feelings. When kids fight, parents often treat children to talk about their feelings by saying things like? Stop arguing with Tony, Sarah. You know that love your brother. Instead, you might recognize the child? The sentiments saying? Sounds like you? Back very disappointed with Tony. You may be surprised to see that this defuses the emotion and Tony to switch to something else.When to give things to children, their selections based on each of their needs and interests. If you try to avoid the arguments for equal gifts to each child, which will inevitably find something that is their unfair.When their children are in an argument to prevent the parties. If possible, encouraged to resolve their differences. It 'almost impossible to try to determine who started a fight. Even if you know who started the debate, taking sides only make things worse. If children do not lea to their minor disagreements, we must lea to resolve things between themselves.Take during an instructor of education of parents. As you lea about parents who are going to change some of their attitudes towards their children and lea new ways to interact with them. You can have the kind of family you want if you're willing to work with this, some changes in their behavior, be patient and things that rivalry can improve.You magically stop if only to lea to do something. However, leaing new behaviors takes time and persistence.It is important to address the issues of rivalry brother, when children are young, because it can intensify and persist children become adults. It 'important to not leave when they feel frustrated. Things can seem even worse than before starting to improve. Thanks to his dedication and perseverance, their children lea to get along better. To prepare their reports in production future.Garrett Coaña is a therapist, coach and psychotherapist. His two Northe New Jersey offices are accessible to persons residing in the county of Bergen, Essex, Passaic County, Rockland County and Manhattan. Offers training and on-line telephone services and counseling for those who live at a distance. Which can be accessed through or 201-303-4303.