It's OK to say no

It's OK to say no Over the past 20 years, are we? Ve all been introduced a new type of education that is more democratic than most of us ever experienced. The families of the children are at the center than they were before we no longer favor spanking as an effective form of discipline, it allows the children are often able to negotiate for rights or things, and we are still much more in our children? Life that most of our parents were in our lives. Education is much, much less than the previous autocratic generations.As with many other changes that do over time, sometimes it takes a good thing too far and thus is no longer the intended target was. With the decisions, with natural and logical consequences, and with a tone of voice for our children are excellent tools for desirable results. But often we forget that we are there? S OK to say? No? when a child asks something that we feel inappropriate. One could ask for a toy that is not appropriate for their age or over budget. You may already have more than using toys. You may ask to pass, and you know that you are not? T is the time or energy to make them there. One could ask for a bedroom or for more than a friend to come and play and you? King not only the state of mind. You have the right of parents to say no and leave it. We do not? T must always be long explanations as to why they? T or something somewhere. We do not? T also increase our voice. Simple? No, not today? is sufficient. If we let them? Ll groped to manipulate us with screaming, whistling, temper tantrums, and any number of other possibilities for us to change our mind. If you ultimately do not change, do not hesitate to contact our mind? I basically taught that they can contact us to get what they want. How can I help prevent your child from manipulating to change her mind? First, we believe in you. Knowing that you know what is best for you and your child, and? S is not? Best if you are interested in. Then, you say it is? King is not easy to become dependent and go away or change the subject. Children are very clever at making us feel guilty. Remember that children are not clear boundaries are less reliable than boundaries.Now that you know? S problem, to say no, no? T means? T change your mind. If you? I do not say something later to change my mind after? Ve seems OK to retu to your child and says:? You know, I? Ve been and what you ask for? I changed my mind. We do not? T want to do all the time, but if the mind can not be? T make you a parent undecided. Who doesn? T change your mind now? Remember that we human.Barbara Desmarais Education and Life Coach Barb@theparentingcoach.com 604-524-1783