As the child s inner silence Critics

As the child s inner silence Critics Children do what feels good to them and follow their natural instincts. So parents teach children that it is not socially acceptable to behave in a certain way, thus going against a natural inclination of the child. Children intealize the voices of parents, teachers and other adults in their lives and begin to criticize themselves. Even if the parents are helpful, often contributes to the emergence of the interior is the inteal critic critic.Who? The interior is the critical voice inside the head of all our failures, weaknesses and our shortcomings. Although disguised as a friend, confidant, that critical inteal sabotages our best interests. Inteal criticism undermines our faith in our children abilities.In, the inteal criticism that says the child who are not smart enough, good enough or talented enough to achieve their goals. Children begin to use their inner dialogue as a mechanism of defense against the world. The reviewer criticizes the inner child before the world can. The interior is essential that the child believes he is helping the child to offer "constructive criticism". The truth is that criticism can not be constructive. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the definition of it is: to promote the improvement or development, and the definition of criticism is as follows: in order to find faults in identifying gaps. From the center of the criticism is so powerful and convincing, how parents can help their children cope with their inteal critic? Helping children to identify when it is attacking critics. From the center of the critical attacks mentally, physically and emotionally, you can help your child know when the center of the criticism is in it are critical motion.Signs fear, feeling of power, feeling disappointed or discouraged feeling of tiredness or illness (for such as a stomachache or headache), devoid of guilt and lack of motivation. Once the child when the inner meaning is crucial in the game, help them see the situation below. What is the critical inteal telling your child that he can not or should not do? Tell your children to observe what he is physically and emotionally, when the inner critic attacks. It might be helpful to have your child write what he / she feels. It could be just a sentence like this: I am not good at math. My hands get sweaty and my stomach hurts when I have to take a math test. Have your child do this when it notices the inteal criticism. If the child is young people, asking them to draw a picture of what you hear like.Help children develop strong self-talk. Helping your child develop strong self-talk takes time and practice. This is a tool that is also useful for parents! It 'very easy for us to name recognizing our weaknesses and our limited beliefs. However, it takes time for us to identify our strengths and potential. Try this exercise: Ask your child to tell 5 things that he / she believes is a weakness or something he or she is not good. The time needed to respond. Then, ask 5 things you know, is the force or something he or she is okay. The time required for a response again. Most children have a healthy sense of self and practice powerful self-talk they can tell their strengths are much faster than its weaknesses. You can help your child to take care of their strengths with a brainstorming session, the strengths and help the child to use their strengths more often. Make a list of all the strengths and place it on the wall, where the child can see every day. He began to focus less on the weaknesses of your child and more about their strengths.Use your relaxation techniques with your child. Ask your child to practice deep breathing or any other method to calm down. For breathing exercises, your attention on your child to breathe and see the air in and out. Baby massage head, neck and shoulders and loosen tight muscles. Use this opportunity for your child to open up and talk. If your child begins to talk, listen interrupting.Offer only positive comments. Listen to your child how to explain what it means to fail them. How the child reacts when he / she is not a test or less than expected results? Find out what is the position of his son is in progress or failure? Does not aim to solve the problem or tell the child because he or she does not. Let your children critical thinking skills to identify what is happening. If you find that your child apologize or talk with him or alone, make the child aware of this. Help your child to solve problems, letting them speak and listen.Be model. Do you have an 'idea in it critical? Your child as if the notice inner critic attacks? When it was not disappointed or anything, talk to your child about it. Be honest with your child your inner critic. Notice how it behaves when the inner critic attacks and set the example for your child. Let your child see you demonstrate healthy ways to deal with disappointment.One is to remember that the focus of criticism will never be. As parents, we can offer support and encouragement to our children, to let them know that we are here to help. Watch the language, let your child dream big, and focus on the strengths of your child. Being aware of your inner critic, children can tu the inner voice of a critic of a useful resource guide.Useful: An Introduction to free his Gremlin Taming for Children: A Roadmap for an increase the confidence of children.   Parents? Alphabet S for self-creation tools to ensure that your child? Best-S Roker Magdalena is an academic and a Personal Development Coach who works with parents, adolescents and young adults to help them unlock the potential and promote academic and personal strengths.