Increasing adolescents stay C A L M

Increasing adolescents stay C A L M Parents of young people who often ask what can be done to their relationship with their children. This can be a great challenge and a time when parents sometimes rejected, the contact, and clearly what to do. Here? Saturday simple strategy that can help for a good ride.Stay CALM Why? Silence? When the young parents, asked what can we do to improve communication channels be kept open, the young always answer:? Don? T freak out? Of course, young people? Perceptions when sharing something important or sensitive, parents too often lack the deep end. There is no safer way to terminate the communication as an overreaction. Parents may have difficulties, not as a response to information that has touched a nerve, it can be difficult for parents. But you can listen and not teaching your teen to talk. He can be all these details because they feel more secure when you are informed, as the value and your relationship. It 'also very likely that they share your values. E 'possible for parents to listen without freaking out. Try asking your teen directly what he wants you to do with this information? asks your advice? Otherwise, DON? T type. Be kind? Peace. And keep your boy is in talks with you.Let? S together with other letters stand for: C? Close alliance parents about the lack of communication, but sometimes the expectations are too high and the atmosphere is tense with unmet needs. Focus instead? Connection. This has a different connotation. For? Connect? Exchange resources, experience, sharing time and space, on the same wavelength. Almost everyone can find a way to connect with their kids? it might take some 'planning and creativity, but it is possible. Parts of a tennis game, to go to the cinema, go for ice cream, play table tennis, baked some cookies together? some enjoyable activities that can be set. Keep up to anything more serious than that enjoy this activity together. Con? Colleague? You have the framework for communication to take place. That? S was the first important step. So might be best to let nature take its course. Oh? , And this step, the? link? often? Don? t make your joint activities of a rare event, or may violate you.? Adjust to know what happened to your boyfriend? It happens in every possible way: physically, emotionally, sexually, cognitive? This is a very dramatic moment in one person? Life. You are in the answer change? Think about it - if your child is changing in important things do not? T is the reason that a parent must be a reaction? You bet that is! Parents must constantly adapt our style of education, so that it is appropriate to the developmental stage of the child. In order not to change means that it can not be to teach them important lessons, or we could have a negative impact on the development of independence and maturity. It also means that our relationship with them. Parents need to continue. That? S part of job.L? Really listen, there's no easier way that will enable you to improve communication and enhance your relationship with the child more time to listen. Parents usually think that a job done much better than their kids think they are. It 'difficult to change the residence? Authorities? everything that is said in question. As for our parents to decide the development of our youth, we need to intentionally spend more time listening to their thoughts and feelings as to validate our opinions or to fix the problems. Nothing has improved in our relationship, until it feels them.M? Monitor How are you going to do, how to implement these changes? To answer this question, you must take a step back from daily BUSY Ness and control. What to do differently? What benefits do you receive? Be honest in your assessment. What changes in the developmental toxicity in your youth? Are you react appropriately? Your greatest opportunity for initiating change in your relationship with your child attitudes.Your behavior and is also to see if you like it or not. In a quiet? Connected? Time with your teen Why not? you wonder how you? do it again. ? You know, honey, I'm trying to tune into your needs are different, now that you have? Re older. This is my first time parenting a teenager, so I could not imagine that it has received quite well. If there is one thing you would change about me, what would it be? Those of us who have tried this approach are almost always surprised by the response. Try it! E C.A.L.M. stay? 2004 Sue BlaneySue Blaney is the author of Please Stop Roller Coaster! As parents of teenagers may facilitate the travel and practical advice for parents of young children, "What can I do to make your child? S Middle School Years. As a communications professional and the parents of two boys, we speak frequently to parents and schools on issues of childcare, improving communication and creating parent discussion groups. Visit their website at