Parenting with Emotional Intelligence 10 tips for encouraging self-pride in your child

Parenting with Emotional Intelligence 10 tips for encouraging self-pride in your child Imagine that each of us enters the world with a golden ball, is our companion in life, bouncing and shining path beside us through our lives. As we grow, the glow of the golden ball of light grows more self-esteem of our flowers. Through the messages to our children, we have a choice, as their strong golden glow balls. You can always grow or fade bright as our loved ones to develop pride in their competence. A splendid result of the promotion of pride is strong self-worth.These ten tips to help your children or loved ones to grow ever more demanding and golden glow: Praise even small acts of cooperation. They glow with feeling appreciated. Encourage their experiences and new challenges? I believe in you? Messages. They glow with a feeling of familiarity is to work. Leave the age and the freedom and choice. They glow with a sense of independence and opportunity. Listen and respond calmly, without verdict. They shine with self-esteem. Guidelines and limits are clear, fair and positive. They glow with a sense of security. Let your loved ones to see your faults and weaknesses. Lights with self-acceptance. Model your values to your children to live with them openly. They shine with a sense of direction. Smile and hug, and often full. They shine with hearts happy and connected. Honor their uniqueness, their particularities and their individuality. They shine with creativity. Help them what they are proud of themselves. Invite them to tell you what they are proud to you.They Lights with emotional intelligence.Action step: Take the feelings of pride in your ~ as a challenge for next week, to find one day to say? I am very proud of you? The sincerity is the highest. To say that only if you feel really proud. Say it with feeling. Be smiling. Be amazed. But be yourself and say? I am very proud of you because - - -----!? It can also be used on smaller Teeny performance. And if you really want, is not proud of what is working hard find.Find: After a couple of days Ask yourself these questions: If my "pride statements" fairly novel, the attention of my son, student, or other ask loved? There has been some significant change problem? In what other situations, settings, or can I continue to promote the pride? Case StudyMy customers 39 years, Peter, Asperger Syndrome, is very charming and social, but with a continued refusal social settings as monopolizing the conversation with his favorite two questions. Peter has been fascinated by whales, and they loved only a new audience to try different views of the same fact questions: "How many species of whales are there in the world?" And "what to do for the oceans in which they live? Most people do not? so, and are not interested in the answer, like Peter, was sitting alone and feeling strange after five minutes in a room. It did not matter that he already knew the answer to these questions, which have a life fixation.We developed a strategy that Peter's suggestion to ask the question and say instead? Oh! I have the answer to this question, non? t I? What makes the strategy is successful, that soon after it stops off repetitive questioning, it is important to listen to Peter (from the support of adults), his favorite phrase of praise, I am so proud of you! Finally, Peter has begun to arrive in front of the cue. It 'important to recognize and admit that the nature of the conduct spontaneous improvement with a more specific statement of praise, how? I am so proud of you to stop you! "o? I am so proud of you to remember you're not asking this question, while you were dancing! "Remember our loved ones are demanding unique. Find your unique way of adapting this tips.Copyright Ellen Mossman-Glazer 2001, 2005. All rights reserved. The Golden Ball of self based on the "Golden Ball" by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of "Wherever you go, wherever you are. "You are cordially invited to share or reprint this article, remains, as is done with all the contact and copyright information with a link to Mossman-M.Ed. Glazer is a life skills and behavioral specialist Coach, specializing in Asperger Syndrome, High Functioning Autism, ADHD and leaing. During his 20 years of education in special classes and treatment settings for children, Ellen, the struggle that children have when they feel that do not fit in. It 'now in private with persons in the U.S. and Canada , by telephone, teleconferencing and e-mail, helps parents, educators, carers and their loved ones challenge to find their own specific actions and tools to thrive. Ellen is the author of two on-line e-Zines, Emotion matters: tools and tips for working with emotions and social skills: The Micro Steps.Subscribe free and lea more about Ellen at   You can send a mini assessment which Ellen will reply to your first action step.