Set the expectations of parents and to create the environment

Set the expectations of parents and to create the environment If I were in Germany for a period of three years, my two sons were in their middle school years. All summer long, most of the children were outside, on the basis of 8 to 10 watch clock. For them it was a fourteen hours day.Not play for my children. It is the duty of me two hours after the inquiry from Monday to Friday. It examines the issues that would be studying at school, l '. I am sure that all children are children, but I thought that play 12 hours a day was a lot. My children were expected to be successful and I intend to make them successful. There was no doubt in anyone? S, Ballard that children are doing very well in school. And they have, because the environment around my children, that the success happen. Not only that my children study in the summer, I travel, leagues and sports clubs and other adult influences right tu my children? S education.My wife and I did this because we never get to school as responsible for our children? s education. We were completely responsible for their formation was only a tool that you use. That? S probably a different way of thinking most parents.Recently, the Indianapolis Star has published an article on the fate of the 21 Century, scientists. These disadvantaged children, as in the 7th Class will be able to finish college. They have the means to do so, but 75% of them fail? T through college. It is daunting. Why is this happening? I believe that these young men and women who fulfill their destiny as they see it. Cultural relations draw these young men and women of success are much stronger than formal programs, which help them to succeed. In short, their environment doesn? T potential.The formal programs help, but if the family or other cultural influences are sending different signals, so it's almost impossible for a young man or woman from an impoverished background to succeed. At school, you hear? You? Re smart, and you? Re lucky, you? Ve had this opportunity. However, at home, you can talk to a parent? E 'was good enough for me, should be good enough for you? or friend? Come and see us at work. Make your money and time does to us for the weekend. Not? T College in order to ea money. More likely, these children will never be their current circumstances.I was one of these children. My father was out of his home at the age of 16 years. Perhaps this was a blessing, as my grandfather was not a model. We were far from middle class and, frankly, as far as I can tell, every other child in our district are not close to achieving more than they knew, as child.If not for the intervention of two people, in my father? The life, my whole family is still poor and struggling. E 'changed my parents? Expectations for their children and extended the support of our environment. You probably do not know how much influence he had on me and my brothers and sisters, but I know.Alice Brown, an English teacher at Tech High School, apparently saw something good in my father, and the helped for a job at Eli Lilly. To say that my father did not think was worthy of such an offer would be an understatement. After my father from Lilly, I remember him as a child bawling recalling the time a manager at Lilly just talked to him. Not the directors, not Vice President, but a simple manager deigned to speak with my father. Did not? T think it was worthy of being talked about a matter as important as a person manager.Due for his training and expertise not otherwise, my father has never been the way senior executives from Lilly, but his work there, the stability home. He could be very difficult, but it was only what was shown by his father and other fathers, he said. At its heart, he was a good and decent man. Alice Brown must be some other did.While a young, healthy man, my father has played fast pitch softball with a man named Jim McLinn. He grew up poor in the same neighborhood as my father, Mr. McLinn but attended Cathedral High School, a college preparatory school. It 'went to the Cathedral every day from his high school career. In a way known to me, it struck my father, my brothers and my Catholic grade schools and poor children Cathedral.Much like today, we do not? T we were poor, we have only what our parents told us to do. Going to the Cathedral was one of the things we heard. It was not? Ta public school vs. private school issue, it was only a signal for change of expectations. However, it was our parents, not the school that the change of expectation.In Retrospect, this has been an enormous financial burden of four children bo within six years of each other (one sister came a few years later) . Can I? T remember, my parents do not talk to me, but I know that if you participate in the Indiana University College, it was clear that much less money for everyone else I knew. Five dollar usually lasts more than a month is the most important point, if we are all after college. This was the expectation. We were the only ones in our neighborhood who are in school, my parents who are the target of some derision for the test even send their children to the Cathedral or at the College. He is the expectation of our parents, to do this, certainly in our area have never been to this conclusion on our own. Our family, with two degrees of settlement law and other advanced degrees. There are entrepreneurs and military officers. All my parents? Grandchildren are on the road almost unimaginable just fifty years before.No child can find their way to a life of its own success. We want a friendly environment with an expectation of success. It is necessary not only that they do hear, but must do so. You need to know they are worthy. It is necessary to encourage people in authority, including their own family. You should? T feel like feelings? Know your place. Who do you think you are? o? If it is good enough for me, should be good enough for you. It 'easy to see the path of my siblings and I without Alice Brown and Jim McLinn to my father? Life. It 'the same way that 75% of the 21 Century, scientists should be expected now.Success go of the child. The environment must be such expectation. Then the child succeed.Greg Ballard is the author of small unit leadership and is a board member and volunteer at the Lilly Boys and Girls Club, he is a management consultant based in Indianapolis. His email address is ballardga@yahoo.com