In Search of self-esteem

In Search of self-esteem Mark and Joanne are the parents of a daughter who recently graduated eighth grade and high school. The girl is a straight "A" and students are expected to attend the school, parents believe they have greater social influence curriculum and ap derivatives believe that their rebellion and the recent act of sexual conduct with children is was a reflection on their attitude towards school. In order to ensure that it was in the best possible environment, Mark and Joanne to the parent-teacher conference and the private school.The attention of the meeting was to reassure parents that the school had a strong curriculum with a particular focus on three R, academics and other components. If the parents of the meeting were ecstatic. When one says to his daughter from imminent changes in schools, but their response has been dramatic. Their challenge raised and sexual acting out has been frequent and flagrant. It was also due to shoplifting. After a month of turmoil that the family tued to the council. After a short period of time, it became clear that the parents on academic and academic modules seemingly natural way to a straight "A" student has been at the expense of recognizing that an element as important for her daughter's success in life absent. She had no self-esteem.The ability to feel self-confidence is an essential element for the survival of human capabilities. It provides the necessary sense of competence, motivation and capacity to deal with things and people that the life of the arts to their highest potential. Without self-esteem, the ability to successfully navigate the obstacles of life has decreased significantly. People with little or no self-esteem rather emphasizes retaliate against life, because there is a trend that they themselves create value in any case, that experience, everything that is individual and the necessary rational and strategic solutions to a problem of circumvented.Lack self-esteem is also an equal opportunity destroyer, the impact on the whole range of economic and social categories. Unlike a case of measles, can not so easily identified. Previously, people with low esteem are easily recognizable because of their acute withdrawal or aberrant behavior, which may still exist. However, many patients suffering from this current state of a competent and not outside, while inside it, living a life of inner turmoil and self fear.Where not like? Some doctors believe that the personality of a child is disposed of, while others believe that taught and instilled in the same way all the cognitive tasks may be incorporated. It seems more accurate, that there is a healthy combination of the two polarized views. Although the etiology of the disease is important for parents, it is useful to understand the signs and symptoms of affected.Children those with low self-esteem may be shy, but others have a tendency to bullies, or show aggression with siblings small or colleagues. Most are also exposed to strong emotional reactions to frustration or exaggerated, hold grudges, persevere in their appearance, or focus on what they regard as unjust, as a friend, a brother with toys, privileges, or attention etc.. As we get older, you can with their inferiority by feigning illness to avoid school or social situations and are more inclined to take a high-risk behavior - everything from sexually acting out, eating disorders, shoplifting, smoking , drugs, or underachieving. Emotional, which can cancel the stress for children of similar age and feels the pressure of the opinion that people, recreation, or social.As parents, it is also important to understand that low self-esteem is also an emotional condition with deep roots and not merely a cognitive disorder. There is a tendency for parents to "talk away", or try to rationally explain why they are their children "should" feel good about yourself. However, the child tries to convince them they should do otherwise is void, even if some of the realities of clinical trials can finesse in family discussions. This approach is more likely to teach the child better to hide their feelings of inadequacy, replace communication with parents and the distrust of the outside appearances hold properly. Instead, we can encourage our children, for the estimation of our children with love and care and maintaining good lines of communication. It is also important that the skills that teach how to navigate obstacles of life, rather than a way to avoid that, while all the limits and realistic consequences. In extreme cases, professional intervention may be effective in teaching the child and the family, as to feelings of low self-discharge esteem.You May reproduction or publication of this article freely as long as you have a visible, active links and the author is bio.David Aronshohn a doctor of psychology and licensed marriage and family therapist. He maintains a private practice and business in Westlake Village, CA. 818/735-0428. Read more articles by David visit Disclaimer The advice in this article is not as professional advice or advice for your specific set of circumstances. It is intended for general knowledge. It is recommended that, if you think you need individual assistance for you or your family, you are looking for the Council and the intervention of a license, professional help for your particular situation.