As parents of young children s behavior

As parents of young children s behavior Parents who try to make their children do what they want to do often wind up feeling completely out of control. This is in contrast, perhaps, but you try to control your children, trying to control you! You see, if your children feel that you are running a dictatorship that could groped to overthrow you? And when this happens, anarchy rules! Now you think that May I suggest you let them sleep the rule, but nothing   Could be further from the truth. What we seek is a democracy   environment that is directed and guided by you. This type of environment does not mean   tu your children loose and let them cause havoc or allowing them to   in danger, but that means taking control of your actions   so that children lea to take control if theirs.So thinking? I need to have control of my children? is dominant   your mind, remember that ultimately we can not control what you do. In   Finally, parents to take control of children? s behavior is   One of them even more chaos. Mothers and fathers must lea to promote good   behavior rather than forcing it.How, you can begin to feel more in control of their own child? s BehaviorOne dozens of techniques that I teach about how to regain a sense of control   and motivate your child to want to be well behaved, which is what I call? Distraction   On the action? in chapter nine of my book, when you are about to go Off The Deep End   Don t Take your children with you. ? Stocks Distraction? are exactly what   sounds like when the child does something you do not want to do so,   ? Distraction action? shifts for your child? attention to something   positive and productive.For example, parents can quickly take control of a situation by creating   fun challenges in the midst of potential turmoil. If your child does something   N you? want to do, instead of saying? No? (which only motivate   wants to do more) to say something similar? I? see how you can quickly   Scale taking your hands. Another way to take your child? S focus   Abnormal behavior to ask? It might give me the biggest hug you can possibly   Dare? o? How strong and quiet, how can we say? I love you? to each other? Not only do these types of requests for help calm the chaos increases, but also repair   the emotional distance that can be created by the ongoing conflict. ? Distraction   Actions? help parents. Taking control of children? S behavior is not   effective, but taking control of the situation. How have you done? Of   show children how to participate in the activities and behaviors that are   Positive and safe. You can not force the behavior you want, but you can encourage,   promote and encourage it.The more chances you give the child to be helpful, Chaos is less   Will be one of the best ways parents can positively influence young children? S behavior   is to help their children feel useful.We all need to be needed, and children are no exception. At times, your jouey   Children? Mental health is a simple matter of giving them the opportunity to feel   useful.is attended an excellent example of this right now, when my young nephew, when he was six   Time was up to a family reunion. I look at him and said: "It would be --   Can you help? You seem surprised and flattered. Want to go in the kitchen and help to highlight the grandmother buns and butter?   I continued. With a smile on his face, and has forgotten all   Misconduct. Sometimes positively influence the behavior requires nothing more than   ask you to help your children out.When, it seems that chaos is the power of his family, there are l? hope for parents.   Taking control of children? S behavior is not desirable? And, moreover, l?   Impossible. Remember, the more parents try to control their children,   young children will try to control their parents! Instead, parents can encourage   promote and encourage a positive and productive in their attitudes   Children. The end result is a happy family that everyone can be proud of? Children   included.Kelly Nault, MA author of When you're about to go Off The Deep End   Don t Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put first? For   Good of their children. It is based on the time tested tools that motivate children to   want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Subscribe to   Parent free online here.   You are free to print or publish this article provided that the article bio   remains as written and include a link to the one above. Ultimate Parent 2005 All rights reserved.