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Playing Favorites parenting advice Q: We have a great dilemma in our house and I do not know where to go. We have two daughters, ages 15 and 11. The 15-year-old led all the blame for the bad behavior of his sister, because it considers that the treatment of his younger sister, as the favorite. He can do his bad behavior? Do you think you should change the way we treat them? A: Put two or more children in a family and, finally, someone shouts "that treatment is better than me!" So that leads to the question, we must take this seriously, and if so, what should I do? First, there is no valid complaint. It 'possible that a child is easier to handle than other high maintenance _ vs low maintenance. You can share more interests with one child than another, or a child can behave better than another. These are all naturally situations.Another way of seeing, of course, is to treat it differently, because each of her children have grown up in different families. The child grew up in a family that was raising his first child, not the other children in the picture. His second son was bo in a broken family and parents and an older sibling.By definition, be treated differently, at least for some extent.One solution is to schedule the dates of each of them on a regular basis to base. A date that involves one or both parents separately with each child, spend time together just for fun and focused on each child.Another strategy is to not allow your daughter to use this as a way to handle it. If so, you gave a powerful and personal leverage.The bottom line is this: even if not the difference in treatment of their children, their eldest daughter is still the responsibility of leaing how to handle situations which in itself would be unfair because this is a good training for the real world, and behave the way you were taught is correct. In other words, do not reduce the standards for behavior in the face of "you treat me differently!" Visit ParentingYourTeenager.com tips and tools for thriving during adolescence. You can also subscribe to our f * r * e * e 5 days and Program in Top 5 Things to Never Say to your teen, parents and coach expert Jeff Herring.