As a meeting with your children when absentee dad again Part 5 of 5

As a meeting with your children when absentee dad again Part 5 of 5 Fathers who leave their children, for whatever reason, have a long and difficult jouey ahead, if they have a meeting with his children. God bless you if you have the commitment necessary to make them happen. Over the years roll by, the rates of absenteeism fathers want to retu with their children with severe disabilities: 1) fear? How are you with the children when one of them? 2) access? If the ex-wife, is it possible? 3) acceptance mark? If the child is with you even want to talk? It is not easy to answer in overcoming these obstacles. However, support and collaboration with a team of consultants to advise you every step of the way then there is key.And children. The adoption in fact depends on how the children are angry with you.My friend and mentor, Gerald again with his two daughters for several years. We have accepted and built a great relationship, and others wanted nothing to do with him now or ever.Assuming Papa wins the fear and the acceptance of children is an unknown factor, while the other, access approaches l ' ex-spouse. In his book, The Lost Father, Mark Bryan writes: "I knew you must feel abandoned, as I felt chased. It is valid both our view, but I could see that only after repeated encounters with paper and pencil, writing through my feelings hurt, until I could see not only the pain, but the painful facts: I had abandoned the my rights and my authority to Betsy (his ex-wife) and tried to blame her for my mistake. "Preparation and clearly marked on the paper before a meeting with ex-wife is very important. Here are some tips to help you: * Do not groped a connection with the child, before coming into contact with the mother. This is considered an act of war .* Do not use the phone. Absolutely no more at the door. They do nothing, except for a mentor, preview and approve all plans. And just listen to what the mentor says you.Where to find a mentor? Locally, a psychologist specializing in the field of child rearing. Check with the ministers that respect. Talk to other parents to find someone who has lived this before.Join support groups on-line or on-line education with coaches like Mark Bryan Mark Brandenburg and in resolving the anger. If you have any resentment against your ex-wife, get rid of them. Back to the guide and do everything it takes. If you try to enter the ex-world, while still guilty of everything that your meeting will not happen .* Make the initial contact by letter. Never send the letter to them by their mentor. The wrong words and wrong attitude nix your chances of reunification .* After the first contact, do what ever wondered how your ex-conditions for reunification. Remember that you basically are your rights as a father .* and must humble himself as a moderate, does not mean that you can not negotiate. If all the applications of new money had to pay if you have not. If not, tell and ask for terms. Keep the conversation in progress, without the feelings of the past. Remember, this is more a trade agreement, not a marriage negotiation.Good luck. And stay for your children's lives .**************************************** * *********** David Perdew, author of "Bad Dad: 10 Keys to re --   Trust, is a father and former Bad Dad. Get your free   Special Report - None Fathers: A Child's Worst   Nightmare! AT => Personal Stories of finding inner peace   A not-so-peaceful world   => Will peace. Today is a good day to start .****************************************** * Attn *********~~~ ezine editors / Site owners ~ ~ ~   Feel free to reprint this article in its entirety in   Your newsletter, blog, autoresponder, or on your website so   long as all links in place, do not change   Content of resources and our box as above.Feel free to sign up for our affiliate program and   replace your affiliate link in the resouce box:   =>