Parenting Styles How to stop fighting and work together

Parenting Styles How to stop fighting and work together Have you ever wondered how your style of education "mother-team? in? Head competition? This picture: You and your 8-year-old wants the new PG-13 film, which also is known for his artwork. You say? No? and at the same time your spouse says? Sure. Look in his disbelief. They begin to discuss with your wife and your son not only watches, but switched to his side with their views. How often you can choose the path in front of your children? When it comes to education these battles, as you come to a decision, preferably with the subject, in each case, without an argument in front of your children, and both feel and confirmed the power of education? The first thing to understand is that you are truly a team. You have strengths and weaknesses that in the ideal case, playing against each other. None of you is the trainer. They are both players on the team. If the quarterback is always ready to go long? and thinks that running again? ve designed a hand-off, the team has problems. It 'now time for you and your wife on the same side and a team of education team.Leaing not the heat of the moment, with his child, and urged to seek his own way? Just as football teams don? t lea new pieces in the middle of the Superbowl. Aware of teamwork means that there is the discussion and practice, planning and trying new ways of being. This education is a lot of work and, to this end and must be deepened. The key is to look at your model of education, find out why the mother is like you, and then look at what is really best for each of your individual children.So if you are in a cycle to discuss competing Parenting styles to put aside a little 'time to sit down and do the following exercises. There may be more fun than you think, and I know that you can use your education conflict in education with a little 'success work.Exercises for the development of team training: 1). As a couple, write two or three of real life - examples of situations where your training styles, and you've noticed, we argue (or do not argue and just feeling disempowered and angry) on a theme of education. 2) For each example, write each parent? s? Standard mode? of Education. Perhaps only one parent more permissive and more protection. Maybe a resort to anger and shouting, if other seats on the passive aggressive manipulation to meet its way. What's your style standard of education? 3) Then, each parent has to check its original style. This is a perception. See how you parented and how each of your relationships with your parents as parents moldings. If you have a difficult time of the birth of a child is to see pattes that you have inherited, you can ask a brother or a close friend of a sample. If you? Re still having problems, ask your spouse if he or she has any suggestions. Sometimes, so we put in our family? Stuff? We need new eyes to see it.4.) Now retu to the examples that you listed. Make this your default style of education and how it is done in interaction parented. This is not right or wrong. This is to remember your brand. There are no right or wrong way, parents: There are good models and unhealthy. Our task is to ensure the former, and leave it. Here are some examples: a. parents aware of the fact that they have a tendency to be lenient because they grew up in a family that was very strict and grow missed a lot of fun with friends.b. Pope, who had a tendency to be tougher, because he grew up in a chaotic house with some limits and he wants his children in a more structured home life.c. Mother aware that they have a tendency to want the baby? S friend, rather than their parents, because it can avoid discipline manner. He had little discipline on the part of parents and can not be? T really know how it.d. Pope knows that his parents were very strict about the type of film has seen and heard the music and that he is that the models we have unconsciously.5.) Now you can get your models and how they play in education challenges go back to your examples, and some decisions. Take the movie example: if the father has on a model of parents, he can really decide if it works for him or not. If parents are unaware of models that we have a choice, let them go or proceed to the model. The problem is not this model for my child? Thus, with the film, the father is convinced that this model really works. Your child is susceptible to nightmares, and wants to deprive him of unhealthy psychological influences. At the same time, the mother of the fact that the possibility of presenting the model of a lack of discipline of this child. They have understood that, as he grows up, he? S always challenging and have healthy boundaries and needs, that it is time to lea as a mother, not a friend. (Note that children have many friends, I hope that the friends of all ages. They are, however, only the mother or father and you can do this role for you!) What happens if all this work and is still You will find disagreement on an issue of education? If you are authentic and humble, who has won? T really happen. If you are able to take a step back and let your models and your expectations, it is easy to see what is best for your child. Remember that it is not the way it is to raise healthy, empowered children. All these small interactions up to your family? S dynamic. Most of this work, we can make a deposit for the amount of confrontation, peaceful and balanced is your life. And the happier your child be.Straight talking about the mother, who? S, where you are, and know how your family: Shelly Walker is the mother of two beautiful children and author of Power and awakened the next book Parenting Keys. Shelly is passionate about children and believes that every child deserves healthy, happy parents. For more information, see