Interview with author Ken Jasmyn Klarsfeld He Said She Said

Interview with author Ken Jasmyn Klarsfeld He Said She Said Jasmyn Karfeld is the daughter. Karfeld Ken is the father. Jasmyn is what society, as an extreme case of an adolescent control. Now talk about it. Welcome to Reader Views Jasmyn and Ken.Juanita: You must have a very special book, which offers a valuable overview in a growing problem, it is likely that more families than you think. Why have you chosen a co-author of a book on this type of raw materials and personal account? Ken: As you remember Jasmyn was a misunderstanding of each other's intentions and perceptions during their education. The degree of separation on real events has been fascinating, if our memories of events were the same in a different way. We thought that if you could articulate in a book, we can help others in the same situation, understanding of growth and healing.Jasmyn: We thought it was interesting that when it comes to different situations of the past, our perspective , which is in a given situation in a different way. We thought that the reading of an account for a child? Life from their point of view and their parents? Perspective would be very illuminating, so we decided to write it.Juanita: What was the first step towards the communication between you two? Ken: I believe that even in our darkest times was a line of communication between us. Jasmyn tu to us for help if they are at their worst could be the first stepJasmyn: If I have children for me and a parent, I appreciate the fact that the situation is even much more, and was open for communication and consultation on my part dad.Juanita: What was the biggest different perception brought about the whole process of writing this book? Ken: I don? I think Jasmyn was aware of the turmoil that he was creating. A recurrent theme in the book is Jasmyn say? Why are they important, is my life. I think we understand, after reading the author of the mine, where actually care.Jasmyn: E 'was that my dad idea what motivated me Sooo incredibly different from what they actually give reasons me.Juanita: What is recommended parents in such a crisis? Ken: positive incentives for change. Find an outlet for your child, you and the application. The best solution is prevention.Jasmyn: To be able to listen to their children, find out what motivates and drives, and then use this problem, you them.Juanita: What do you recommend to young people in such a crisis? Ken: Counseling is so easy to make, but hard to take. Sit down with your parents and to be honest. The parents really care in general. Let your parents know what your conces are and try to understand your health is and will always be their conce. And 'your life, but your parents? S goal and greatest desire to help where are the pitfalls that you have a great future. Try to remember a teenager, only for a very short time, and an adult for the rest of your life. Don? T mortgage the future with bad decisions that you never forget. His parents do not? T have all the answers, but were there.Jasmyn: To ensure that communication with your parents and try to play an active role in your life to discover what you like, like that with your parents want and talk with them about the way forward. If you can, from the perspective of a solution, rather than a problem-oriented one.Juanita: What was the catalyst and / or tuing point in her healing process? Ken: It would actually Jasmyn asked if help.Jasmyn: When I realized that children means having something to lose. I have verified that it was a good life, or which cause a bad one.Juanita: parents and young people through design seem to have communication problems. What you do is the biggest challenge of adolescents? Face in communicating with their parents today? Jasmyn: Many times the parents do not? T understand where the young, or as a really important social issues and feel a certain degree of control over their lives is to teenagers. The boys are worried about these things, and parents are conceed about the long-term goals, such as school and a good job, so that parents should focus on those things rather than the immediate.Juanita: In a crisis situation, and so much fear, as a parent who has unconditional love and acceptance if they see that their kids destructive decisions? Ken: It is not easy. One of the things you said Jasmyn required to do the things they knew very wrong is that he never had a sense of despair. He knew he had the chance to go home to loving parents. As a parent, that would have been disastrous away. Knowing that you have for your child is a beacon for them.Juanita: She suggested that one of the main influences on the downward spiral that was Jasmyn was very intelligent and was not? T challenged enough in school. How big is the problem I hear it is today and what we can do to help the parents? Ken: I think this is a problem, since the introduction of public schools. Parents have to deal with all aspects of life of children. Finding a 'activities to stimulate and motivate, is the key to communication.Jasmyn: I think that probably is a big problem today, with some of the children, and I see that in my daughter. So, what I try to do with it is their channel of affairs that the intelligence of things, like books, dance, and I? M thought and drama. Otherwise, you're bored and their energies into things that are not good for her.Juanita: You have been invited to speak in court about mediation as a group of parents and young people relate. How did you find your unique point of view to contribute to this process and you have every success to share? Ken: Timely question. Jasmyn talks next week in a woman? S Symposium in a prison in Salem, Oregon. As I write this my wife is on the phone with a reader contacted us after reading the book. We give their suggestions and support through a situation very similar to our past. We believe that a support group by e-mail and phone calls are receivingJasmyn: I think I have a unique perspective that I am a parent, but I am still young enough to remember what it feels like a teenager. The fact that my father and I are so close that makes us a success today story.Juanita: I would like to ask you for your thoughts today. With such a unique perspective and unflinching honesty, your book? He Said, She Said? will certainly help many people. Do you have something that you? D happy with your readers? Ken: Yes, parents can create a lot from this book, who will be happy to read it. For teens, especially young people in trouble when reading it, not just another lame that the mother or the father they want. I propose the collection of a chapter, which is especially important for your child and an agreement with the adolescent to read only this chapter. Jasmyn then speak? S and Ken? Experience in this chapter with the adolescent. Questions like? Boy, Ken really blew it with Jasmyn! I have never done anything that stupid? Or? What do you think of Ken and Jasmyn would otherwise have had to help, rather than report is wrong? This opens the out routes. Have the teen with some questions for parents. Once you talk with your jouey! Juanita Watson is Assistant Editor of Reader Views