Conscious Parenting - Looking Through Their Eyes

As parents, we do the best job we can with the resources, knowledge and wisdom we possess. Something I have learned along the path of my own parenting journey is that when we can experience the world through the eyes, ears and hearts of our children, we are the most effective with them. When we meet them at their level, see what is going on in their world, and simply ask what they need from us, the floodgates of heaven open.

If you can imagine for just a moment, being age five again... did you understand the world, life, "good and bad," hurt feelings, etc., as you do now? Of course not. Sometimes we forget that our children have limited experiences to draw from, and that we must come to their world to interact and teach, as opposed to asking them to come to our world (perspective). From that place, we can take their hand and walk them forward in their journey of life.

Every "misbehavior," "trouble," "disagreement," and/or "acting out," if you will, is nothing more than a child saying, "I've hit the boundary limits of my knowledge and skills. Please teach me more." That's all it is. No one is born with the intent of being in trouble all the time. If that is happening, there are gaps in the learning process somewhere along the way.

I would like to challenge each parent to think before judging, to feel before reacting, and to ask themselves, "Has my child reached the boundary limit of their knowledge and skill set? Is this simply another opportunity for me to teach?" We are looking for where we need to bridge the gap.

Kids are curious and adventurous beings. And... they are learning. We must remember both.

Let's concentrate on the love and connection that every human being wants, and show our children acceptance. And, let's see parenting as the teaching role that it is. We are blessed to have been given a student to mentor. Let's guide our children up the mountain of life, enjoying the view all the while. The skills we teach them now will help them in friendships, marriage, business adventures, and their relationships with themselves.

What a great gift to give our children ~ experiencing the world through their eyes, ears and heart ~ teaching and guiding them in their journey. That's really what being a parent is, isn't it?